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Infidelity and Children – How One's Affairs Affects Children
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By: XSTILLA.COM
Affairs can be difficult for everyone involved. From the victim to the cheater and even the 'other man or woman,' affairs can often wreak havoc on lives and love. However, most people don't think about the ones that affairs can really affect – those people are the children that are involved. Unfortunately, the children that have absolutely nothing to do with affairs or marital problems often have to bare the brunt of an affair. While most people say that children are quite resilient – the truth is that an affair can affect them much more than you think.
Older Children –
Older children who have to deal with an affair can really go through a lot. From criticism from other children who may have heard about the affair, to pain and anger. Obviously, the children are going to feel pain for the parent who is the victim and they are going to be very angry at the parent who jeopardized his or her entire family for another man or woman. These emotions can be very strong and sometimes it can be difficult for the child or teenager to deal with those emotions. This can lead to the child getting in trouble at school or at home and even to the child acting out in anger and frustration.
Younger Children –
Although younger children may not understand the entire circumstances or even what an affair is – they also have some serious emotions to deal with which stem from the situation. When there is tension, arguments, fighting, emotional pain, hostility and other emotions and feelings present in the home – younger children feel these. They may not understand what is going on but they can feel very insecure as far as their family life. For children who have heard about the situation or understand what has happened, there is another fear.
Children pattern their relationships after what they have learned. Their greatest source of education comes from their parents and they may grow to have dysfunctional relationships because of what they have experienced in their own household as a child. A child from a mother who has dealt continuously with infidelity may subconsciously feel that it's normal to deal with this sort of pain and confusion in a relationship. Therefore, they may seek out partners who will cheat or be unfaithful. While this isn't certain to happen with every child who lives with a parent's infidelity, it most certainly can happen.
Children are resilient and amazing; however, they can suffer from infidelity and affairs sometimes even more so than the adults will. From the present anger, pain and sadness at the turmoil in their home to the lasting effects an affair has on a child – they are most definitely changed when an affair takes place. Affairs are not just hurtful and harmful for adults – most of the time, our children must suffer from them as well.
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