Divorce is difficult for everyone involved—especially the children. Normal routines get thrown out the window and this can really damage a child's sense of security and well-being. Because children are often with one parent most of the time, they can feel a very large sense of loss because they don’t see their other parent as often. They may even carry guilt about the divorce although they are in no way to blame. Many of these things can be very difficult and stressful for a child to go through, especially since they aren't fully equipped to handle confusing and painful feelings.
To help deal with the sense of loss a child feels, both parents need to work together and make a commitment to see the children very regularly. It is not just a privilege to see the children; it is also a duty. If you're not spending enough time with your children, commit to seeing them more often and really spending quality time with them. Never refuse to let your ex see your children simply because you're angry or bitter about the divorce. This will hurt your spouse but it will also deeply hurt and traumatize your children. Unless there is a legitimate reason to keep your children away from your ex, encourage your ex to spend time with the kids and vice versa.
Although it's difficult to do, it's important for you and your ex to work together for the benefit of your children. The kids need to know that they are still very much loved by both parents and that they can come to either of you if they need to. They need to know that each parent is more than happy if they spend time with the other parent. For this reason, it's important that you and your ex are at least civil when it comes to co-parenting and that you really discuss the well being of your children and what it takes to make them feel secure and happy. It's also important that the rules stay the same between households so that children understand that Mom and Dad are still working together to ensure that they are taught properly and obey the rules.
All too often, parents use the children in a game of hurting their ex. One parent may let the children run wild because they are seeking to become the favorite in their children's eyes. Again, all this will do is hurt and confuse the children more. Maintain a responsible way of parenting and work with your ex to keep things consistent. As both of you spend time with your children, maintain rules and consistency and reassure your children that the divorce was in no way their fault and that they are much loved. The children will feel more secure and be better adjusted.
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