|
Sexual Relationship Advice for Married Couples
|
| 1 thumbs up |
 |
|
By: XSTILLA.COM
While you didn't expect that giddy, teenage feeling to last forever, you certainly didn't think all of the spark would leave your marriage completely, but, it has and now you're desperate to reconnect and make things right again. Great. The fact that you can acknowledge there's something wrong and are willing to work on it is a testament to your commitment to the relationship and a good indicator that the spark is still there, you just have to work a little harder to find it, that's all.
Compromise is Key
It's very rare for a couple to be on the same wavelength when it comes to sex. In many cases, one partner usually wants it more often than the other, and it's usually the husband who is feeling left out, unloved, unneeded, or undesirable. What most men fail to realize is that most women don't walk around "on cue," able to get in the mood at the drop of a hat, whether it's hormones or not, women just aren't wired the way men are. Period. Once you've got that, it's a bit easier to realize the importance of compromise.
Also never forget that being intimate with someone or expressing your love for them doesn't always have to be in the form of sexual intercourse each and every time. If it ends up that way, wonderful, if not, just revel in being close to each other, have some patience and let nature naturally take its course without expectations or demands.
Remember Romance
Never underestimate the power of simple romance when it comes to rekindling the fire in your marriage. Take a good look around your bedroom. If you're anything like most people, it probably doesn't quite resemble a romantic boudoir, but might reflect who you are as a couple and how serious you take the intimate side of your relationship.
There's a crib in one corner, toys in the other, a pile of clothes that need folded and put away, yesterday's mail somehow ended up on the dresser, and the television is always blaring away. There's absolutely nothing romantic or relaxing about any of these things so no wonder neither of you are hardly ever in the mood, and rarely together at the same time.
What type of lighting do you have in your bedroom? What about the drapes or curtains? Do the kids have free reign in here as well as everywhere else in the house? Do either of you bring work to bed, furiously tapping away on the laptop each night instead of being with your partner? If so, it's no wonder sex is the last thing that's going to go on in that room. Turn off the TV and the computer, lock the door, light some candles, spritz perfume around the room, play some soft music, and turn on your own imagination before trying to turn your partner on and use any number of accoutrements to enhance your lovemaking.
Remember that sex isn't all about the sense of touch, ignite each of the senses, including sight, sound, smell and taste so that all are working in tandem to create one memorable experience.
|
| I like it |  |
|
Previous Article
jtmommy
August 04, 2008 at 05:31PM
