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Should You Stay or Leave After Infidelity?
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By: XSTILLA.COM
If you've ever been in a relationship where your significant other was unfaithful – you know how painful it can be to deal with. One question that most others who experience this situation have is, "Should I stay or should I leave?" While there is no 'right' or 'wrong' answer which encompasses all relationships, you do need to assess your own situation and make a decision based on your individual circumstances. Here are some more pointers and tips for deciding whether you should stay or leave after infidelity.
One of the most important aspects of deciding whether to stay or leave has to do with your partner's actions. Obviously – you do not want to stay if you think it is going to happen again. Or, if it has happened more than once – your partner probably will keep doing it because you keep letting them get away with it. If they do not seem genuinely sorry, you need to evaluate the relationship. Why are they with you if they desire to be with others? Is there some sort of comfort issue where your partner is too accustomed to being with you to break things off? This is a very important part of deciding whether to stay or leave.
However, if your partner truly made a large mistake and they seem to be genuinely sorry about the infidelity – it may be another story. Think about a few things before making your decision. Have they apologized sincerely and explained to you why they think it happened and why it will not happen again? Have they appeared truly remorseful that they have hurt you and your relationship? Have they offered or agreed to seek counseling in order to repair the damage that they've done? These are things that someone does when they are really sorry and upset that the situation happened.
In this case, you might decide to stay if you think you can handle it. That's the other point you need to consider. Can you really overcome the event and learn to trust your spouse again without bringing up the cheating every time something difficult happens? Can you forgive your spouse and try to rebuild your relationship? If you don't think you can handle it or you know that you will never be able to trust your spouse again, you might want to really think about what will happen with the relationship if you stay. Will things simply further deteriorate? Will you be hurt even more?
No one can tell you whether you should stay or leave after infidelity but if you consider these questions and situations, you will be able to have further insight into what you should do. This will help you make a better decision for you and your partner. Using the tips and questions above, determine what is best for you and what you can do! Good luck.
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The longer he DOES stay, the easier it seems to be to let him go. See ya......28 years... what a putz. Enjoy your new girlfriend, I'm moving on.