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Conversation: hurt
Started by: memory4ever on: 01/21/2012 08:40 PM
how can some one stop loving u after 25yrs im not sure if he's going threw change of life
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Conversation: I just don't understand why
Started by: kerisa0802 on: 05/12/2011 01:09 PM
I have been married for two years. Yesterday my husband and I had a small argument that turned into more than I expected. He told me that he has never had any feeling for me what so ever. That he has never loved me or cared about me at all. He says he only stuck around as long as he did for our son that is 18 months old. I don't understand how someone could feel that way. Everyday he would tell me he loved me and that we were going to grow old together. We were supposed to be getting a house together soon and he even wanted to try and have another baby at the end of the year. How can this be? How is it that someone can want to do all of this but yet have no feelings for me at all? Has anyone else experienced this or have any insight on this matter? He also tells me that he doesn't want to be married anymore. That he just isn't good for anyone. That he feels as though he could never love anyone and it's not only me.
2 commentsLast comment: 09/08/2011 07:42 PM
Conversation: dont know what to do
Started by: justwaiting on: 08/04/2011 07:45 PM
Hurt ! it just wont ever go away
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Conversation: Was I ready for Marriage?
Started by: Capri16 on: 02/13/2011 01:35 AM
According to my soon to be ex-husband, I was not a good wife and that, as a women, I needed to follow and learn to be in my place. Whatever does that mean? I felt trapped in my marriage, i felt like i couldn't even say a joke because he would take offense to it or if he felt like saying a compliment he would do it in a mocking, sarcastic way making me feel bad about myself. Every time i wanted to discuss one of his wrong doings I was never allowed to because, after all, i needed to be thankful and grateful for everything that he had done for me and my daughter. He was a great provider, hard working, we always just had enough. I never asked for more, i was happy with what he was giving us. I would also ask my daughter to be respectful to him, to talk to him, to understand his behavior. However, i became angry, resentful, upset at him. Nothing i ever did pleased him, he always nagged and asked for more. If i got upset he would respond by saying "if you love me you wouldn't do that". Or he would get mad and be mean to me and say "i do this because you behave this way" or "you did this to me on this day, remember". I became miserable, unhappy but no matter how much i tried to make him see what he was doing he just didn't want to listen. He was always right and perfect. He left 3 weeks ago and i am now going back to my old self. I don't get mad anymore, i'm happy with my kids, I'm taking a class and enjoying it very much. Unfortunately, we have a daughter together and now he's demanding to see her (his right) but he is apparently hurt and upset and it's all my fault. I really don't want to see him, everytime i do i always end up feeling bad and get very sad. Is not like i miss him or love him. I stopped loving him long ago. I think is his negativity, his angry and demeaning look. I feel like he wants to hurt me and he does by telling me it was all my fault. I wish i hadn't had kids with this man. I'm not saying i regret having my little baby but he just makes it so impossible. I want to leave, run away and never see him again. I know, it sounds immature but when you have been hurt so badly and the other person doesn't at least apologize in a nice way is hard to handle it emotionally. It's heart breaking. I hope all of this ends soon.
1 commentsLast comment: 05/09/2011 10:22 PM
Conversation: how to get email password of spouse?
Started by: mronio on: 04/07/2011 11:23 AM
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Conversation: My wife
Started by: 2behonest on: 09/27/2009 11:13 PM
Hi, Iam 38 my wife is 35 we have three kids, 6, 5 and 11 months old. I feel as if my wife has had an affair and it is ongoing, we have been to couseling and I have been to speak with my Pastor. My wife is acting very weird and I have caught her in numerous lies and she has changed cell phones and put screen locks on them, she sleeps with her phone and just woke up and turned it on to look at it in front of me and said she was checking the time...I am torn as I know something is going on and she wont fess up to it nor will she stop her little games of going for late wlaks, talking or typing texts on her phone in private and then there is the computer too...Not sure what to do, she wont talk about this and always says "here you go again" you will never change!
Any advise?
3 commentsLast comment: 02/13/2011 11:51 PM
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Infidelity Start a Conversation
Conversation: My wife is cheating
Started by: JT007 on: 10/14/2011 11:34 AM
Hey, my wife is cheating.
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Conversation: Need some help up here...
Started by: oldbirdiegirl on: 09/15/2009 10:14 PM
It's been a week since I kicked him out. I caught him with my best friend. I am drowning in sadness now. WTF any ideas?
2 commentsLast comment: 04/07/2011 11:19 AM
Conversation: Infidelity Statistics of Cheating Men & Women!!
Started by: mronio on: 04/07/2011 11:18 AM
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Divorce & Dating Start a Conversation
Conversation: Really confused
Started by: Nat44 on: 09/04/2011 10:27 AM
I was going thru my divorce when I met him. He was already divorced a full year. We hit it off and have a lot in common. We each have one child the same age. It was very intense sexually early on. About 2.5 months into it... He freaks out saying he doesn't think he's ready for something more serious. I wasn't either and explained that. Things were great for the next few weeks. The last time I saw him he seemed odd and he wasn't able to maintain an erection during sex. We spoke that evening ... Two days later he said he can't do this right now and needs time. I tried to stay in contact but he's essentially dropped off the face of the earth. Got one email a month later that he was sorry and missed me. I responded that I'd like to see him and accept him with his issues but haven't heard from him since - about one month ago. I really miss him and want to be there for him but he isn't receptive. Any advice?
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Conversation: Looking for an Infidelity Investigator?
Started by: mronio on: 04/07/2011 11:21 AM
If you've got this nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that your partner may be cheating on you....or you're almost certain they are but unable to prove it, this could be the most important service you really need.

If you think your spouse, your partner, or your beloved is cheating on you and you really have that sense and you have the funds, hiring a online private eye is going to perhaps bring a relief because you'll find out “yes” or “no” on whether or not what you suspect is true.

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Internet Infidelity
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General Divorce Issues Start a Conversation
Conversation: A divorce PARTY??
Started by: macdaddydave on: 07/17/2008 03:32 PM
I just found out today that my X is throwing herself a divorce party, complete with gifts, games and guests.  I'm shocked. Why would you CELEBRATE A DIVORCE?? It's a terrible experience, from beginning to end, and I just don't get why she wants to bask in it?
10 commentsLast comment: 07/20/2011 02:27 PM
Conversation: Just moved, very lonely
Started by: rufe47 on: 04/04/2009 09:37 PM
My divorce was final in late October and I just moved into my own place. It is much smaller than the home I shared with my ex-husband, which is okay, but it's a tough adjustment and I feel extremely lonely and out of sorts being in a new place. Anyone out there been through or going through something similar? Would love to commisserate...
4 commentsLast comment: 05/09/2011 10:35 PM
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Category: Considering Divorce Start a Conversation
Conversation: so what to do...
Started by: wilynicci on: 06/27/2011 10:43 AM
we may not have started on a great footing - i needed a visa and we had to push the existing relationship along much faster so i could stay, but gods a witness i really loved him and believed hes just right for me - yes he had problems but what opportunities i offered him out of his downward-spiralling life was not shared apparently. he wanted to continue severely abusing alcohol and became very aggressive when i couldnt take it anymore and after NUMEROUS UNTOLD attempts at conciliation became very down and accusing and other negative behaviour but never aggressive or below some level of integrity. now all is f-ed up and he has vehemently said many times he doesnt love me and hes here for his little son, but still feels some responsibility for me and him. hes always refused any outside help or self-help and just says the marriage were forced and that i didnt really love him. believe me i've to my detriment opened mself to lots of abuse tried to support and raise esteem and love one-sidedly but to NO avail. he just always takes and i always give and it gets thrown back in my face. i believe i may be an abused spouse
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Conversation: Seeking Couples Thinking of Divorce
Started by: TVProducer on: 02/28/2011 03:50 PM
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