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Conversation: my husband is hurtrng terribly
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Started by: Sno
on: 09/15/2009 02:33 AM |
he started the divorce process then I got myself a lawyer then after two to three sessions with my lawyer he decided he want me back but now he is so abusive.he is hurting me physical and emotional,he swears at me and my family.He doesnt want me to use his appliances like dstv and radio sytem.he always refers to the house as his porperty not ours.went to get a court interdict for domestic voilence but the court date is on the 21 sept 2009.he is still abusive when a went to report him to the police he denies everything.yesterday he came in after 2100 from work and he was drunk then he started threating me that the court interdict is just a paper that wont stop him from doing anything.Then he said to he is going to his girlfriend but first he phoned her in front of me.WEhen he was about to leave he said he will lock me and leave with the key so i jumped for keys its where he started hitting me and bending my arms.I called the police but i was cut off becuase of airtime,ist where he decided to call them himself.They arrived in our house but he turned evrything agianst saaying im the one who is abusive,the police said he must go for interdict against me and went
At midmight he woke me up and started all over again i decided not to aswer him then he demanded sexual intercourse with me and i refused adn he swears to me.and i'm pregnant with my second child.He said today he is not going to divorce or get interdict for me.I am thinking of moving out but court said i must stay there till the court date.Im so hurt donno what to do anymore |
| 1 commentsLast comment: 01/28/2010 11:47 PM |
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Conversation: My wife
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Started by: 2behonest
on: 09/27/2009 11:13 PM |
Hi, Iam 38 my wife is 35 we have three kids, 6, 5 and 11 months old. I feel as if my wife has had an affair and it is ongoing, we have been to couseling and I have been to speak with my Pastor. My wife is acting very weird and I have caught her in numerous lies and she has changed cell phones and put screen locks on them, she sleeps with her phone and just woke up and turned it on to look at it in front of me and said she was checking the time...I am torn as I know something is going on and she wont fess up to it nor will she stop her little games of going for late wlaks, talking or typing texts on her phone in private and then there is the computer too...Not sure what to do, she wont talk about this and always says "here you go again" you will never change!
Any advise? |
| 2 commentsLast comment: 01/28/2010 11:43 PM |
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Conversation: Seeing wife softens heart.
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Started by: David
on: 10/02/2009 05:44 PM |
After spending three months completely unable to talk to my wife (thanks to a wrongful injunction), I get a passing chance to talk to her for 10 minutes. Despite all the horror she caused (and will yet cause), my heart ached when I saw her. Her actions have destroyed all of my trust and respect in her, but my heart still melted when I saw her.
I don't know if I am really still in love with her or if my 24 year emotional connection is refusing to let go. My head say to walk away, but my heart is asking me to wait.
I would like to know from those of you out there who have "been there - done that" if what I feel is normal. How did you handle regrets and second guessing? Was it hard to separate the conflict between the head and the heart? |
| 1 commentsLast comment: 10/03/2009 01:28 PM |
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Conversation: Seeing wife softens heart.
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Started by: David
on: 10/02/2009 05:44 PM |
After spending three months completely unable to talk to my wife (thanks to a wrongful injunction), I get a passing chance to talk to her for 10 minutes. Despite all the horror she caused (and will yet cause), my heart ached when I saw her. Her actions have destroyed all of my trust and respect in her, but my heart still melted when I saw her.
I don't know if I am really still in love with her or if my 24 year emotional connection is refusing to let go. My head say to walk away, but my heart is asking me to wait.
I would like to know from those of you out there who have "been there - done that" if what I feel is normal. How did you handle regrets and second guessing? Was it hard to separate the conflict between the head and the heart? |
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Conversation: Abusive Relationship
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Started by: Cuglietta
on: 10/01/2009 11:23 PM |
| I've been married to my husband for 20 years. My husband spent alot of time with his friends, and drank alot. His friends were more important then me. I have 2 daughters. We separated once, and got back together. I went back for the kids sake. I was always alone. He worked but on his days off he went to camp all the time. I devoted most of my marriage to my kids. He was physically abuse once, he's very verbally abusive. He complained that I didn't communicate to him, but how do you communicate to someone who doesn't listen to you so I just gave up in communicating. Because I was alone I started gambling, I ended up having a gambling problem because I have been so unhappy for so long. I was in denial about my marriage, I wanted it to work. With the gambling I started lying, making fake documents, I've done things that I'm not proud of, which I feel guilty about. Since the separation I haven't gambled, going to group. Now my husband has a girlfriend which I feel anger, resentment, jealousy. He's treating this girl like and princess. Why couldn't he be like that with me. He doesn't drink as much, doesn't hang out with his friends. How do I get passed that he has a girlfriend. I scared that I might be alone my whole life, will I ever meet someone else. Also , when I left my kids 16 & 14, I decided for them to stay at the house, I didn't to disrupt their lives . They have lived in this house over 10 years. I'm presently living in an apartment, working 2 part-time jobs. The hardest part of the whole separation is spending all the time with my kids. I raised those girls by myself, my husband was never around and when he was he spent most the time with his friends drinking. Part of me wishes to get back together with him, and the other part says no. Why do I still love him. My counsellor that I see says to me to think about all the bad and negative things that have happened during your marriage. I try that but it sometimes very difficult. |
| 1 commentsLast comment: 10/02/2009 08:33 AM |
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