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Conversation: wife keeping in touch with guy who is also a distant cousin who she had affair with. Report Abuse
Started by: gcr74 on: 10/05/2008 06:23 AM
My wife keep sending some emails to the guy she had affair with. I confronted at one time to stop it if she wants to stay married but she replied that she can't because he is her cousin. The cousin tend to ignore her and does not read the emails. This really bothers me. I'm holding on for the sake of the kids who are already 19 yrs old and up but still in college. I don't want them to be dstraction in their studies. Although, they knowledge of what had been happening. What sustained all through these 9 yrs. is my faith in God. The affairs happened twice 5 yrs. apart for the same person. My fear is it can happen again in a year or 2 because she has not been finished with him. The guy maybe finished by his ignoring her. I am hoping that she will change. I don't know whether that hope is realistic. Need your advice.
3 commentsLast comment: 10/11/2008 09:32 PM
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By: sue barakat on: 10/11/2008 09:32 PM
 You should take a break and see if you even wanna be with this women 
your kids are in college and have there own lives
you need to find one with someone who wants one with you 
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By: chilipeppers on: 10/06/2008 11:45 AM
Unacceptable all the way around. Your wife needs to decide if she wants to be married or not. If she doesn't and isn't willing to cease all ties with the man she cheated with then you have to cut her loose....plain and simple.
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By: ladydiva on: 10/06/2008 11:20 AM
Ok, I am a bit confused so can you pleaseclarify? Are you saying that your wife had an affair with her cousin twice?  In addition, are you saying that your wife is still trying to stay in contact with this guy because "he is her umm relative and they should be close"? If that is in fact the case, you need to set some boundaries and consider a separation or divorce with your wife right now. She has some serious issues. It is one thing to cheat on a partner but to want to have contact with the person because of some sort of family loyalty is just weird and  wrong. In addition, your wife should consider counseling if she doesn't seek a problem with her actions. Not only did she cheat but she cheated with a relative and that is really strange. My prayers go out to you and I'll pray for you and your family.

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